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Queer (In)Formal

Sunday, February 10th, 2008


Queer Formal, an annual dance held in Winter quarter, was on Friday at the GCC. I didn’t attend this year. I have attended in the past, but this year I had no desire to go. I didn’t really realize why until an hour before the event was supposed to start. My house threw a large happy hour as a preparty to the formal. The e-flyer for the formal said:

*drag is highly encouraged*

So naturally the attire of all the people in my lounge en route to the GCC was . . . a strange mix of formal wear and “crazy fun drag wear”. Granted, there were a couple of fiercely beautiful queens in formal wear. But the overall feel was very much a freak show feeling to me – complete with straight guys in drag. I still don’t know how I feel about that co-optation of an element of queer resistance against a repressive straight society by straight people at a queer event. I’m happy when people fight gender roles, but I’m somewhat offended when it’s done by those who don’t understand the meaning and history – at a queer event, I suppose.
I guess what got me the most about Queer Formal this year was that it was marketed in a way that turned it from a formal into any other hypersexualized and freaky fun queer party. Don’t get me wrong, I love those parties, which is good because queers hold a lot of them. But Viennese Ball was also on Friday.
Viennese Ball, probably the most formal dance event Stanford holds, is a very romantic, fun, and formal affair. But just by the nature of the dance (tuxes and gowns, leads and follows, etc), the entire event is very gendered to fit a straight society, and I know lots of queer people who are hesitant to attend. Two boys (or girls) in tuxes dancing together at this event would stand out much more than at a Queer Formal. I know that it’s likely it wouldn’t be an issue for same sex or same gender pairings at Viennese Ball, but many people in the LGBTQ community are very nervous about attending these “very straight” events because of past incidents, current climates, etc.
So the only option for a guaranteed queer-friendly formal event at Stanford is Queer Formal . . . or at least it was. Now, as my friends who attended report, “It was just another queer freakshow.” Will we get more respect when we can demonstrate to the rest of the world that even we love romance, and getting dressed up to take out a sweetheart? Or will we be constantly doomed to prejudices of freakness or hypersexuality that we ultimately take up as a defensive measure?
I want a real Queer Formal. There is nowhere else to get this. I can wait until Genderfuk, Terra Parties, Queer parties, any weekend night in the Castro for tongue-in-cheek-drag and “horizontal hokey-pokey”. Perhaps I’m just old-fashioned.

California Legislature Passes Bill Allowing Gays to Marry — Again

Friday, September 7th, 2007

For the second time in two years, the California legislature voted to legalize marriage between same-sex couples. This time, the bill received more votes and was co-authored by 29 Assemblymembers and 14 Senators, who were led by Assemblyman Mark Leno. A broad coalition of more than 250 civil rights organizations and leaders support the measure, including the NAACP California State Conference, United Farm Workers, Mexican American Legal Defense and Educational Fund, Chinese for Affirmative Action, California Teachers Association, ACLU, California Nurses Association, Lambda Legal, Anti-Defamation League, California National Organization for Women, California Church Impact, and the National Center for Lesbian Rights.
It’s unlikely, but we’ll see if Governor Schwarzenegger has the balls to sign it this time (October 14th is his deadline). Props to our courageous legislators.
Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger
State Capitol Building
Sacramento, CA 95814
Phone: 916-445-2841
Fax: 916-445-4633

Democrats join HRC for intimate chats on LGBT issues

Thursday, August 9th, 2007

I thought this was pretty cool: all but two of the 2008 Democratic presidential hopefuls appeared one-by-one at an event hosted by the Human Rights Campaign and televised by Logo to discuss their views on issues affecting the gay community. First of all, it’s cool that these candidates showed up. Even cooler was that, with the exception of Barack Obama (who seemed to be straining), most of the candidates really seemed to embrace the LGBT community, and the discussions came off as candid and intimate. The chat with Mike Gravel and his wholehearted acceptance of homosexuality was a special treat, simply given the generation he hails from.
Also, I hate to sound promotional, but I keep walking away from watching Hillary Clinton talk feeling really impressed and almost reassured by her command of the issues. LGBT issues seem to be no exception, and I found her ability to speak frankly and with empathy on the politics of homosexuality, in short, moving. Check out this scene with Melissa Etheridge:

For more, watch more of the debate, or read the Washington Post’s coverage.

Dorm Diaries: New YouTube Series Tells What It’s Like to Be Black @ Stanford

Wednesday, May 23rd, 2007

School. Sex. DRAMA. That’s the premise of a new homegrown YouTube satire on what it’s like to be Black at Stanford. Check out the ingenious pilot episode, posted on May 7th:

Want to see what happens next? Episode 2 is just a click away (Part I and Part II). I hope to have more on the show and the people behind it soon. Stay tuned. :)

Gender what?

Sunday, May 6th, 2007

Do I look like a slut? Uh huh.

This is a compilation of all of the videos we could scrounge together of the night’s performances. Enjoy. :)
More event pictures here.


Christian Fundamentalism on Campus: Hate in Your Face

Thursday, April 12th, 2007

When some people ask themselves “What Would Jesus Do?” in this modern age, some respond, “He would certainly carry big signs that say ‘God Hates Fags’ to soldiers’ funerals!” Others respond, “Jesus would drive to Stanford and tell the students that homosexuals are going to hell!”
The latter response is, in fact, what three older men decided to do today. They stood outside the Spring Career Fair with big signs that read “The sin and the sinner go straight to hell together,” and “Warning: Pornicators, Drunkards, Thieves, Adulterers, God Haters, Liars, HOMOSEXUALS – JUDGMENT.”
Fortunately, Stanford students wouldn’t have any of it. While it would’ve been preferrable to have the men carried off by campus security, the students made the best of the situation by calling on the men to cite Bible verses to support their claims of God’s hate and by cheering on two gay students who made out in front of the demonstrators.
Fortunately, this nice little scene was caught on video (makeout session is at the end).

HIV/AIDS Awareness Ads You’ll Remember in the Bedroom

Tuesday, April 10th, 2007

I was innocently surfing along on my usual internet routine the other day when I stumbled upon a hair-raising HIV/AIDS awareness ad:
The text reads: “Without a condom you’re making love with AIDS. Protect yourself.”
The ad was produced by a French NGO called AIDES (“aide” means “support” or “help” in French), which was founded by Daniel Defert in 1984 following the death of his partner, philosopher (and former Berkeley professor) Michel Foucault. AIDES now operates in over 70 small towns and villages within France, and is recognized as one of the most important European HIV/AIDS NGOs.
While I was googling around to find out more about AIDES, I also (not surprisingly) stumbled upon ads from other NGOs which, through YouTube’s helpful “related” feature, led me to even more anti-AIDS ads — some good, some great, some not so amazing. Continue reading this entry if you’d like to to see some of the best, in my humble opinion.
Notably, most of these ads were produced for broadcasting in the First World, where infection rates are low and AIDS is now considered a “manageable” disease. Some of the ads will make you laugh. Some will shock you. Some might even warm your heart. But after watching several ad spots clearly designed to shock and scare, I can’t help but wonder, “Is there such a thing as overkill when it comes to AIDS awareness?” (Pun not intended.)


Happy Vaentines Day!

Wednesday, February 14th, 2007

The perfect Valentine’s eCard for that special hippie co-op someone.
This Valentine’s Day, why not make that “I love you” a sustainable one? We’re not suggesting that you propose to anyone necessarily (that might be a little too sustainable)… but how about greening it up a little bit? Some easy things you can do today to say “Happy Valentine’s Day, Valentine” in a greener way:

  • Shower together. It saves water, and it’s a sexy treat! Just, for the sake of your housemates, make sure you clean up afterwards. You can learn more about greening your sex life here and here.
  • Cook ’em a nice, organic dinner. Head on down to Whole Foods on Emerson and pick up all the tasty organic ingredients you need. While you’re at it, pick up some organic chocolates, too.
  • Offset your loved one’s carbon emissions for the next year. A $30 gift certificate is enough for them to purchase a TerraPass for their dorm room, and best of all, you can send these gift certificates via e-mail!
  • Rent An Inconvenient Truth and watch it together. If you still haven’t seen it, or watching Al Gore talk about global warming is a turn-on for either one of you, this documentary could be the perfect lead-in to foreplay. Or even foreplay itself. (Unfortunately, there are none available from Green as of this writing.)

For more, check here and here.
In other news, Google appears to have dropped the “L” from its name for Valentine’s Day. “Googe”? That just sounds gross.
Maybe there was another chocolate-covered strawberry there and somebody ate it.

Beefcake @ Cantor

Saturday, January 20th, 2007

[Editor’s note: This entry includes penises. Read on at your own peril.]
The Cantor Center, otherwise known as the Stanford Museum, has had some pretty awesome exhibits over the years that I’ve been here. Current exhibits on rotation include “In the American West,” a photography exhibit, “Visions of Dharma,” an exhibit on contemporary Thai art — and “Beefcake,” an exhibition of the Stanford Library’s collection of Dave Martin photography.