Posts Tagged ‘valentine’s day’

The People I Would Date from Stanford Confessions

Thursday, February 14th, 2013

It’s not Valentine’s day without Ryan Gosling.

In a gargantuan procrastination effort, I have scrolled through every single Stanford confession and constructed the following list of proposals:

#125: I get so angry when people are always hating on the richer people on campus. We’re in college, and as college students we’re put in an environment where money no longer defines your social status as much; we’re all students. It’s great whenever an individual has aspirations to make it big because of his/her background, but I just feel like money is something that is discussed about too much at this school. People should realize what’s really important and stop obsessing about money.

I feel you. Money is not what’s important, it’s all the other stuff that matters. Like, you know, your heart and soul and personality and face. There’s so much passion in this post; clearly you’ve thought a lot about this. Are you frustrated because you’re rich and you’re tired of getting crap about it? I love me a rich boy with heart. Holla.

#129: I am Mehran Sahami’s son. He doesn’t know.

I just want Mehran as my father-in-law, is that so bad?

#139: I hate when people criticize my major. I will major in whatever the f**k I want to. Get off my case.

A few weeks ago I told someone I’m considering majoring in Science, Technology and Society and they straight up said, “But, c’mon, you know that’s the cop-out major.” Then I punched him in the face. Try telling me what to major in now, b***h. Just kidding, I laughed awkwardly and said nothing. I should have though. Anyways. You and me? We should get coffee. Just kidding, I hate coffee. We can get hot chocolate though and talk about how ballin’ we’ll be in the future despite–no, because of–our unconventional majors.

And actually, #127: I want to be a high school teacher but people at Stanford have pressured me into thinking I have to do something “better,”, you should join us. In fact, we don’t even have to date. Let’s just sit around and talk about how the world does not actually revolve around engineers. Please. (more…)

I Love You Like I Love Pizza

Wednesday, February 13th, 2013

Whether you’re looking forward to tomorrow or dreading it, you’ll probably have a better Valentine’s Day than these folks.

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Movies With Heart: Capping Off Valentine’s Day

Tuesday, February 14th, 2012

As this Valentine’s Day is coming to a close why not wind down with a movie or two, or three?  Don’t worry, these aren’t the usual Nicholas Sparks picks.  Here is a quick list of movies, quirky and poignant, that won’t add to your toothache or your heartache.

“Lars and the Real Girl”:  Ryan Gosling is at his best (and his best is pretty darn good) in this touching, quiet movie.  This sleeper was overlooked and underrated.  Gosling plays a man who is painfully shy and must come to terms with being an adult with the help of his brother and sister-in-law, some kind friends, and a girl who is not entirely “real.”  One of the funniest parts is when Gosling quickly chucks a flower away in order for the girl he likes not to assume it was for her.

“Sense and Sensibility”:  “Pride and Prejudice” (the BBC version of course) is wonderful as well, but Emma Thompson arguably did a better job with “Sense and Sensibility” than Austen herself.  The cinematography is beautiful and sweeping, as is the soundtrack.  Kate Winslet and Thompson play Marianne and Elinor, sisters and best friends who are navigating the waters of upper crest society and marriage in a time when women were not able to even dream of becoming anything that they could call their own.  Elinor aptly states that it is “a bit bewitching” to think that one’s happiness rests on another person.  In this case, it is not hard to imagine and it is wonderful to watch.

“Once”:  This movie is a great surprise.  “Once” won the Academy Award for Best Song for the beautiful “Falling Slowly.” Falling Slowly, Once Lyrics The song could describe what one feels while watching the movie itself as two underdogs struggling to find their way find each other instead.  “Once” shows how we can indeed make a difference in someone else’s life, even if it is just through passing by.  Another strong aspect of the film is the music.  The lyrics are haunting, describing everything from heartbreak to discovery of self.

“Lost in Translation”:  Ships passing in the night seems to be a favorite subject in literature and films alike.  Sofia Coppola manages to do this subtly, though.  Scarlett Johansson (in her strongest role, possibly) and Bill Murray are two Americans who have trouble adapting while visiting Tokyo.  They both feel lonely in a city crowded with people and find some solace in each other.  These two have a connection right away even though the odds may not be in their favor.

“Roman Holiday”:  There has to be at least one classic pick, right?  “Roman Holiday” is full of fun and truths as well.  Gregory Peck (sigh) plays a journalist who believes he has landed a big story when Audrey Hepburn (playing a princess) lands on his doorstep.  In one day they find that they can relate to one another and learn to really care for each other.  The most memorable scene?  Watch it and find out (it is at the end). (more…)

Happy Stanford V-Day!

Tuesday, February 14th, 2012

For all of those in the middle of recruiting season, or surrounded by people who are being recruited:

Special thanks to Roger Tran ’13 for the drawing.

A Valentine’s Day Reset

Monday, February 13th, 2012


In the words of famed social psychologist Pat Benatar, “love is a battlefield.”

Indeed, it seems that every year around February 14th, two camps pitch metaphorical tents and lob pithy arguments at one another, as both the happily romantically involved and the victims of SAD (singles awareness day) weigh in on the relevance or irrelevance of this candy-hyped holiday.

Fact or Fiction: discerning the reason for the season

Curious as to the origins of this spat, I went one deeper and checked out the origins of the holiday itself.  My discoveries were surprising, to say the least.  The only definitive fact about the origin of Valentine’s Day is that it honors two Christian martyrs (both named Valentine, of course) who were executed in the second and third centuries A.D.  Not only is there no evidence for some mystical monk sending love letters between star-crossed lovers: the notion of an amorous holiday recognizing violent religious persecution seems utterly… well, unromantic.

The most prevalent unsubstantiated myth suggests that Valentine was a priest who performed secret marriages for soldiers legally bound to celibacy.  Even this less-bloody story, like the martyrdom story, indicates a more important, more universal theme than the Hollywood-ized version of Cupid and candy hearts: the survival of love in the face of adversity.  Faith overcoming death, love overcoming law.

This greater, original theme suggests that Valentine’s Day is all-inclusive.  Whether you’re maintaining high school friendships despite thousands of miles of separation or pursuing classical flute training while balancing a heavy ChemE load, ultimately your passion has overcome your challenges.  Perhaps the best examples of this inextinguishable love are the hundreds and thousands of Stanford students who hurdled socioeconomic barriers to attend our University and pursue their love of learning.

Only one day to celebrate love? (more…)

Stereo Love: V-Day Playlists for the Lovers and the Loveless

Sunday, February 12th, 2012

I haven’t put a whole lot of thought into what persona I’ll be adopting for Valentine’s Day/Single’s Awareness Day (SAD) this year. I’ve done the couple thing. I’ve done the hating-on-anything-to-do-with-love-while-secretly-sending-myself-chocolate thing. At this point, I’m leaning towards ambivalence. As such, when I got inspired to do a playlist post by Kristi’s awesome article about failtastic lovesongs, I couldn’t decide whether I wanted to go the “mushy” route or the “sardonically commenting on the absurdity of the holiday” route. So I went with both. One will make your significant other look deep into your eyes with misty longing or laugh whilst tenderly spooning. The other will make you want to a) key your ex’s car b) sit in bed with the  company of several pounds’ worth of Ghirardelli wrappers c) think to yourself “Heck YES I’m single and ready to mingle” or d) laugh uproariously at the concept of romantic love. Whatever you choose to jam out to this Tuesday, just remember that no one will love you until you learn to love yourself, you get 12 free condoms a quarter from Vaden, and that chocolate can stimulate all the serotonin you will ever need. Keep it classy, Stanford. (more…)

Happy Monday

Monday, February 14th, 2011

It’s the fourteenth of February.

Otherwise known as Read to Your Child Day, though I imagine most undergrads won’t be in observance. Much more applicable to us is the loved and loathed Valentine’s Day (or Singles Awareness Day, depending on your outlook). I was going to write a post about all the cutesy shit Stanford couples could do on and off campus without breaking the bank (such as making some pottery together a la Ghost, taking some fun photos, having an indoor picnic and the like.). I have since changed my mind. It’s not that I am one of those extremists who begins to gag at the sight of red and pink or couples holding hands. Whatever floats your boat. I am actually working my way to neutrality. And why write about a bunch of adorable activities that I can’t even take part in, anyway?

It's not that bad.

I am simply determined to make it not suck to be alone this Valentine’s Day. It shouldn’t be that hard. I don’t see how it can have much of an effect on a busy college student who lives on campus and has many single friends. I will not be Sad Keanu on a park bench. I’m not going be sitting alone in the dark, watching The Notebook, a pint of Ben and Jerry’s there to catch my tears. Regardless, I give to you some of the tips I’ve come across.

By far the most popular suggestion is to surround yourself with friends and do something fun. Just because it’s a day about love doesn’t mean it has to be romantic love, right? Let’s keep telling ourselves that. Anyway, get together with your best buddies and watch a movie or grab dinner. Bake something to share with the people you care about (people generally like baked goods. I made cookies and now have friends I didn’t know I had before). Something on campus you can do tonight is go to Black Love at 7 in the Toyon lounge. Omarion can sing your troubles away.


You’re Doing It Wrong: Dating and the Fairy Tale Phenomenon at Stanford

Friday, February 4th, 2011

Constant weddings on campus = no pressure, right?

At Stanford, as at many elite universities, there tends to be a predominant view that dating here is somehow flawed.  We’re working too hard, we claim, we don’t have time to develop meaningful relationships.  There’s no middle ground, others complain, where’s the route between frat party flings and near-obsessive-already-planning-the-wedding-in-Mem-Chu couplings?

And sure, there are more people who want to be in relationships than actually are.  Depending on your metrics, that might be sufficient data to prove the there’s-no-dating-at-Stanford hypothesis.

But I don’t think that dating at Stanford is fundamentally flawed.  I think that many of us are just going  about it the wrong way.

Like… only a little?

Artificial dating constructs don't work... but those purple boots sure do! I think I need a pair.

We Stanford students like for things to be effortless.  High school valedictorians, sports stars, musical prodigies – you name it, we’re used to things coming easily.  We focus on our academics and extracurricular activities and often assume that the rest will fall into place without any additional work on our part.

Cue, the very definition of half-hearted, lazy pursuit of meaningful relationships.  Oh, sure, it’s much easier to confess that crush under the guise of anonymity of the Internet.  But that post took you, what, 30 seconds to write?  With relationships, as with any other meaningful pursuits, you receive according to the effort you put into something.  So if your admiration for someone is really only worth a 30-second post, go for it.  And watch absolutely nothing happen.  Don’t accuse flirting of failing you – pin the blame on the sad excuse for a flirt medium in which you engaged.

In real life, there are no fairy godmothers to make your wishes come true.  If you want something to work out, TALK to the object of your affections.  Yeah, it’s difficult and potentially awkward, but we’re all too busy to assess the intricacies of chance meetings.  If you’re actually interested in someone, you really “need to be bold, need to jump in the cold water” and put yourself out there.  If you don’t put forth at least that much effort and interest, why should they?  And for the hesitant out there: honestly, what’s the worst that could happen?  The math is in your favor.  If it doesn’t work out with crush #1 or #2, there are over 15,000 other Stanford students to choose from.  There are plenty of fish in the sea.